This is where Dr. A sex researcher, blogger , and adjunct professor at New York University, Dr. Zhana has been studying casual sex and non-monogamy for the past decade.
A few months ago, she started encouraging people to submit their own stories of one-night stands, fuck buddies, booty calls, and the occasional three- or foursome, and began featuring the stories on the Casual Sex Project, a digital collection of first-person sexual anecdotes. Much like sex itself, the stories run the gamut from awkward to hilarious to sad to highly erotic.
Pretty much every hookup experience you can imagine is featured on the website; because most submissions are anonymous, few authors hold any of the details back. I anonymously submitted a story a few days ago, and even though I regularly write about sex for this website, I found myself blushing the whole time I was typing.
Although many of the stories are titllating, the point of the project, says Dr. Zhana, is not to turn us on. Rather, it serves an educational purpose: By learning how other people have casual sex, we can better understand ourselves and our own sexual desires and experiences. The Daily Dot spoke to Dr.
So why the Casual Sex Project? What did you hope to learn from this project? A lot of people disapprove of it, a lot of people are very excited about it, a lot of people are doing it. But there was no online space out there for people to share their actual stories of hookups. And I wanted to create such a space, because we need actual firsthand information for people to talk about what casual sex is for different people, what it means to them, what type of things happen.
I would normally get one submission a day, mostly from friends with extensive social networks. Yesterday I got 70 submissions.
It seems like people are liking it. Usually you would only have a space to write something like this if you had your own sex blog. A lot of people have no interest or desire in doing that, but they do have these one or two stories they wanna share.
If you look at the media coverage of hookup culture, it sort of goes one of two ways: The stories reflect the many different ways people experience their hookups. Some of them have seen it as a very positive experience that opened up a lot of passion and satisfaction in their lives.
Not all hookups have the same positive or negative consequences for people, and not all people are equally susceptible to highly positive or negative consequences.
For some people, hookups can be a good, positive thing they can enjoy without consequence, and for other people, no, they should probably stay away from them. So I think the project really shows all those nuances. We need to start thinking about all the 50 shades of gray that exist, as opposed to the black and white. Do you think people are inherently predisposed to enjoying or not enjoying hookups?
Does it largely depend on the person as to whether or not this is a good thing for them? What research is showing so far is there are probably more inborn tendencies to be predisposed to enjoying hookups or less.
Some of that is obviously upbringing: Some of the more inborn tendencies are probably related to your sex drive, and people with higher sex drives will be more predisposed to enjoying casual sex, but also high need for novelty and sensation-seeking, and we all differ on that.
Some people never wanna ride roller coasters, others get excited about that. Another thing that plays a big role is your susceptibility to bonding after casual sex or sex in general.
Some people are more susceptible to that. Those things matter to make some of us more predisposed to carefree enjoyment of hookups versus being harmed by them. Playing around in there could lead you down myriad paths, many of which end in a first-time hookup with someone new, and that can often be extremely awkward or downright hilarious.
We wanted to get a better idea of just how intense a Tinder hookup can get, so we checked out what kinds of stories the good people of Reddit had to tell. And "intense" doesn't even begin to cover what we found. Ahead, read some of the wildest, weirdest, and funniest Tinder hookup stories. Then, share your own in the comments. If you're anything like me, you spend a good amount of time psyching yourself up for a first date.
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